Some guys are just Deadbeats.
"Muggins" <***@gmail.com> wrote in message news:email@example.com...
No you get me wrong. Years ago we had a private arrangement of £40 a
month which he failled to pay on numerous occasions and went for
example to the dominican republic for 2 weeks, turned up in a NEW car
not a banger. After speaking to him about his faillure to pay a
paltry £40 a month he basically told me where to go so I said fine he
leaves me with no option but to involve the CSA. They assessed him
initially at £320 a month and THEN he wanted to play ball with me. He
arranged to meet me and DD in a park and spent the entire time talking
about money not once asking anything about his daughter.
Over the years as he's 1. married someone with 4 kids and 2. appears
to have another child my assessment went down to £98 a month which
again he sporadically paid, I went for long periods without anything.
Last year I asked for a reassessment because of a change in MY
circumstances and he ignored all the letters asking for updated
details, we were last assessed in 2001 (around the time I assume
another child came along as my payments suddenly halved) I discovered
his new wife had left him with her 4 kids (she's not mother of assumed
other child) so he was living alone and had zero housing costs as his
mortgage is paid in full. He got an interim assessment which he
suddenly responded to earlier this year and then supplied details and
was assessed at £98 a week backdated for 12 months as he had failled
to respond to requests for updated details. He then suddenly "lost
He's not poor by any means, he's got older children and how do you
think my daughter feels seeing pictures of her father on holiday
abroad with them when she doesnt even get so much as a christmas
card? Its not like I was a fling, I was with the guy 5 and a half
As I previously said I have ALWAYS worked, I have always provided,
paid for uniforms, holidays, food, whatever she needs as any support
from him has been woefully lacking. She actually went down to his a
few months ago, a lad who knows him took her and he didnt have a clue
who she was despite there being a picture of her on his wall! When
the penny finally dropped he invited her to the pub! She politely
I'm fighting this for HER, He had no problem paying for his other
kids but my DD gets nothing, she didnt even get an invite to his
wedding whilst his other kids were all there.
Post by Fletcher
Sorry but I just don't see that logic as viable,
I seriously doubt that he would deliberately become unemployed purely to
avoid giving you £40/month
1.8 Million people will disagree that anyone can walk into a job tomorrow if
Cars and holidays don't make for lavish lifestyles, you said his "new"
partner had 4 kids, that would have had a cost and most families with kids
do need a car. You say new car but "new" could mean a £300 banger.
But I can understand how you might view it as all being directed against
I'm not defending his failure to pay you on an agreed contract, all I'm
saying is I doubt he's living the life of Reilly on the dole just to get at
If anyone owes you money you can pursue them legally, you can freeze bank
accounts, you can instruct bailiffs, get court orders against property
transactions and generally harass them but nothing on this planet can
"force" someone to pay you if they are determined not to do so. CSA's
ultimate sanction is jail, that and the threat of it has failed to "force"
payments from many NRP's.
Post by Muggins
Bit convenient "losing his job" when he gets a new maintenence
assessment isnt it so damn right I do!!!!! He can walk into a job
tomorrow if he wished, this is just a way of avoiding payment. Our
private arrangement was 40 quid a month, he couldnt be bothered to pay
that most of the time and bought new cars and went on foreign holidays
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